Writings

Essays on partnership, sex, fatherhood, and the sacred art of desire.

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A Virgin, Again

I was a virgin at 35 — after 17 years of burying my desire to keep a relationship alive. This piece is where it all begins: the shattering of shame, the return of my body, and the first glimpse of sex and partnership as sacred path.

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COLLECTION I

Sex, Systems & Sacred Union

What happens when an engineer turns his attention to the most intimate system of all? This series explores the intersection of systems thinking and embodied wisdom—from a 17-year sexless relationship to a path of awakening through desire.

Sex: The Most Potent System for Transformation I Know

Four properties that make sex a living transformational system for healing, awakening, and rewiring your relationship to life.

May 2025

The Sex Container

What 30 days of committed intimacy revealed about collapse, connection, and being loved by the divine.

May 2025

When Sex Isn’t About Sex

How projections onto sex keep us chasing — and what happens when we finally see through them.

June 2025

COLLECTION II

The Lived Path

What happens when the teaching isn’t separate from life? These are the essays written in real-time — from the blur of new fatherhood, the tenderness of partnership under pressure, and the moments where everything I thought I knew got tested. This is sacred union as it actually lives.