Two participants in the dyad practice, forearms held, in rust and copper

True Contact: The Intensive

There’s a place in you that words alone can’t reach.And it’s yearning to be met.

True Contact is an embodied practice for cultivating secure attachment with yourself and with others.

Discover what opens up when all of you can be here—and connection is still possible.

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Fri–Sun, January 29–31 · Boulder, Colorado

From past True Contact participants

“In this practice, I feel so held and safe even when I feel scared and uncomfortable.”

Stevie Calderon

“I still don’t like to be seen but I feel braver and courageous and hungry to do so.”

Shannon Hoppenstedt

“I’ve touched things in my core material that I’ve never touched before.”

Tom Marbois

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You can be loved and still feel alone in the places that matter most.

There may be people who care deeply about you—and still, a grief you’ve never let them near. Anger you’re afraid would cost you the relationship. A longing you’ve learned to live with, because reaching for someone and not being met might hurt more.

Sometimes, we build a life around keeping these places safe. We become the one who needs very little. The one who holds everyone else together. We stay busy, pretend things are okay, or make sure the conversation stays about someone else.

After a while, it can feel like this is simply who we are and how life has to be.

And when someone gets close enough to touch one of these places, we may find ourselves fighting with the very person we long to let in. Or pulling away, just when we most want them to stay.

We know this from our own relationship.

How this began

A note from Edmond & Kiki

We love each other deeply. And still, there have been moments when that love has felt impossible to reach.

We’ve yelled. We’ve fought. We’ve said and done things we’re not proud of. Our nervous systems get flooded, and suddenly we’re no longer two partners trying to understand each other.

We’re inside old pain.

We needed a way beneath the argument—to the fear beneath the anger, the grief beneath the defense, the younger places still fighting for safety and love.

This dyad practice became how we found our way there.

One person turns toward the sensations inside their body. The other offers presence and physical contact: “Even here, I’m with you.”

Edmond and Kiki face to face, eyes meeting, among monstera leaves

Something would shift. What had spent years protecting itself could finally be felt and met. And we would find each other again.

Over time, we brought more than our conflicts into the practice. A loss. An unrealized dream. A desire we didn’t know how to follow. Things we were so certain no one could understand and that we had to carry alone.

We began to glimpse how much of our lives had been organized around protecting these places—and how much could open when we no longer had to keep them untouched. What might we dare to want? How deeply could we love? Who might we become together?

This is the possibility we want to share through True Contact: that meeting what we’ve carried alone could open us to a life—and a love—we couldn’t have imagined from inside our protection.

Even here, I can be met.
I don’t have to hold this alone.

Edmond & Kiki

We can talk about the same patterns for years without ever touching what keeps them stuck.

We can understand where these patterns came from and still find ourselves repeating them.

True Contact offers a direct way into these patterns through the body. We turn toward the tightness, the bracing, the ache beneath the story—and let another person meet us there, offering the nervous system a new imprint of connection.


I’ve been doing inner child work, internal family systems, for a long time. I’ve done shadow work. I’ve done medicine journeys where these younger parts were able to come out and be held. And what all those have in common is a story. What this training has done for me is to help me drop the story, leave it behind, and drop into the direct experience. In four short weeks, I’ve touched things in my core material that I’ve never touched before. So it’s not a story anymore, I’m just living my life.

Tom Marbois

True Contact, founding cohort

A participant roaring into Tom’s hands as he meets her, Kiki standing behind

A sacred technology

The practice

The form is simple: two people, dropping beneath the words and stories into the sensations most alive in the body and most yearning for contact.

One person brings something from their life or relationships and turns toward what they feel in their body. The other offers presence and physical contact through the hands and forearms—pushing or pulling, following what the body is asking for, with both people choosing the pace and intensity.

We call it a sacred technology because of what can happen between two people when a place that has never felt loved finally experiences contact—and because it has a form we can learn, return to, and share.

Anger, grief, fear, longing—whatever is here is welcomed into the practice. As it’s felt and met, something can begin to move.

What gets touched there may be very young. An attachment wound. An old grief. A place that learned it had to face things alone.

And here, someone is with you.

You begin to discover you can stay.

I was able to touch parts of myself that had longed to be felt for a long time. To experience that and be met by my partner felt groundbreaking and deeply healing for our relationship and for our family. To me, it feels like one of the most integrative and potent ways we can incorporate secure attachment into our lives and to life itself.

Lilanee

True Contact, weekend intensive

A different way of meeting Life

What begins as contact with another person can grow into a different relationship with being alive.

So much of life can become organized around what we’re afraid to feel. As these places are met, life can begin to reorganize around what we love and long for. A conversation becomes possible. A desire returns. A future we couldn’t imagine begins to take shape.

Through these experiences, a deeper trust can take root: even in grief or uncertainty, we can feel what Life brings and still be held.

This is what we mean by cultivating secure attachment with Life itself.

Whatever Life brings me, I can meet it.
Because whatever I’m experiencing, Life is still holding me.

I am becoming increasingly aware of how much of my suffering comes from a fear of being intimate with life. I see how this fear keeps me moving nonstop, because to stop, to actually land, would mean becoming intimate with myself and with the experience of being alive. This practice has encouraged me to make contact with that. And on the other side, there’s so much liberation.

Stevie Calderon

True Contact, founding cohort

The room standing in pairs, arms held, a participant laughing as she is met

The next True Contact intensive

A weekend of True Contact

Come on your own or with a partner. No prior experience is needed, and the introduction is not required.

The heart of the weekend is extensive practice: making contact with the core attachment material shaping your life and relationships, with time between practices to rest, integrate, and let what you’ve touched settle.

Teachings on embodied attachment provide the frame for each practice. Directed coaching supports you in finding your way into the felt experience: staying with yourself, letting someone meet you, and receiving contact where you’ve learned to brace or pull away.

We honor and welcome everything we meet as sacred. Many participants have described the depth of the weekend as being like a medicine ceremony.

When
January 29–31Fri–Sun
Time
Fri 5–8pm · Sat–Sun 10am–5pm
Where
Boulder, Colorado
Investment
Sliding Scale: $650-950We offer a limited number of need-based scholarships for diversity and inclusion.

Interested in doing this with your partner? Tell us on the application.

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Or get a taste in an evening.

True Contact: A New Way of Relating. A two-hour introduction to an embodied dyad practice for cultivating secure attachment—and opening to the love, intimacy, and aliveness you long for.

  • Mon, Nov 30 · 5:30–7:30pm
  • Wed, Dec 16 · 5:30–7:30pm

Boulder · Sliding scale $25–$45

Explore the two-hour introduction

What you leave with

  • A way of life

    Learn an embodied practice you can return to with what’s happening in your relationships and your life.

    Bring what you usually carry alone into contact—with yourself and with another person.

    Discover how everyday moments—in partnership, parenting, work, desire, grief, and uncertainty—can become opportunities to deepen connection.

  • Capacity to stay

    Meet collapse, freeze, defense, fight, and fawn without abandoning yourself—and discover what becomes available when you stay.

    Find your way from looping thoughts into what’s happening in your body, with another person there to meet you.

    Make room for more joy, grief, anger, desire, and aliveness without needing your feelings to disappear before you can be in connection.

  • Attunement

    Find what’s asking to be met beneath the words and stories—in yourself and another person.

    Develop a felt sense for where contact can reach something words alone can’t.

    Learn to notice when to move closer, slow down, or give more space.

  • Containment

    Acknowledge your story—and someone else’s—without letting either drive your behavior.

    Practice feeling intensity while staying connected to your own boundaries and another person’s.

    Offer presence without needing to fix, manage, or make someone’s feelings go away.

  • Projections

    Learn to use your stories and thoughts as powerful pointers to the places inside you that are longing for contact.

    Reclaim the energy you spend needing another person—or Life—to be different, and discover how much more of that energy can become available for love, intimacy, and creation.

    Meet deeply rooted patterns through contact with another person—and discover what can change together that you haven’t been able to reach alone.

  • Secure attachment with Life

    Explore how being met by another person can become a felt sense of support you carry into your life.

    Practice asking for contact and receiving support in places you’ve learned to hold alone.

    Deepen your capacity to stay intimate with Life—even when it brings what you would never have chosen.

Secure attachment is a key family value for us, but in the intensity of postpartum, our connection had taken a backseat. Kiki and Edmond, along with their amazing support team, created such a safe, attuned container that we were able to meet each other again, heal long-overdue ruptures, and access a depth of connection I honestly hadn’t felt between us in a long time. We left softer, closer, and with an actual practice for meeting rupture in everyday life.

Chelsey Lehl

True Contact, weekend intensive

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Justin and Shannon in the dyad practice, arms held, eyes meeting, with Edmond beside them

Meet your guides

“
A deep bow to this team for holding this container with such genuine care. This care was deeply felt and allowed us to get vulnerable, even when it was hard.
— Stevie Calderon, True Contact, founding cohort
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Edmond Lau

Founder of Co-Awaken

Founder of Co-Awaken, coach, author, husband, and father. Edmond’s work is rooted in years of daily relational practice, embodiment, and attachment work, exploring how intimacy and partnership can become paths of awakening.

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Candace “Kiki” Sauvé

Founding Partner

Attachment repair coach, Sleepawake facilitator, writer, and mother. Kiki’s work centers on presence, repair, and village, informed by years of daily embodied practice and training in attachment, Aware Parenting, and Emotional Resolution.

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Jessyca Jordan

Embodiment Coach & Sacred Intimacy Facilitator

Jessyca works with eros as life force through tantra, dance, movement, and embodied relational practice.

Assisting

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Erica Shapiro

Chief Catalyst & Business Doula

Grounded in Somatic Birth Psychology and relational practice, Erica brings a deep attunement to the nervous system and the thresholds of birth, creation, and change.

“
Edmond and Kiki have a beautiful relationship in facilitation. There’s a rawness and realness to it where when they’re doing a demo, they get really right into the heart of the matter, something that’s current and alive with them, even sometimes something that’s still raw and unpackaged. And so they open themselves up vulnerably, to demonstrate trusting the practice, trusting the process that they’ve developed, that it has the ability to hold them and to hold us.
— Damien, True Contact, founding cohort
The founding cohort seated in a circle on the rug, Edmond and Kiki at the head

Lineage

Woven from many threads

The True Contact practice we share is an embodied, relational technology woven from several lineages:

  1. Holographic FlowEthan HensonLuminous
  2. Projections WorkMina Lee and Joe HudsonArt of Accomplishment
  3. Emotional ResolutionCedric BertelliEmotional Health Institute
  4. The Adult Attachment Repair ModelPeter Cummings
  5. Shamanic Medicine WorkVee Dalindo

The True Contact Practice

These threads, alongside years of our own exploration, have been tested and woven into a single form through five years of practice.

Frequently asked questions

Do I need a partner to join?

No. Most of the founding cohort came alone. You practice with different people in the room, and it’s often easier with someone who isn’t your partner. Couples are welcome and can practice together or apart.

Do I need prior experience with somatic or relational work?

No. The practice is taught from the ground up, and every session includes guided practice with a facilitator beside you. Experience with therapy, meditation, or medicine work is common in the room and not required.

What does the physical contact involve?

Hands and forearms only, seated on cushions or standing. One person pushes into or pulls on the other’s arms. Eye contact is encouraged when you have capacity for it. Every step is consented to by both people, and you can adjust or stop at any point.

What if I get overwhelmed, or it’s too intense?

True Contact is held as a trauma-informed container. Intensity isn’t something you need to push through. You set the intensity. The first practice runs at a low level, and you’re given a simple stoplight system for slowing down or stopping. A facilitator is with you throughout. It can be intense, and the container is built so that it’s held.

What if I can’t feel anything, or I dissociate?

Numbness, fog, and freezing are common and are worked with directly. Frozen states are met slowly, with presence rather than force, and often shift over several sessions. One participant who arrived unsure he felt things the way other people do was in tears of joy by week three.

What if I get stuck in my head?

This is the most common thing that happens. The practice includes specific ways to trace a thought back to the sensation underneath it, and the facilitators coach it in the moment. Being in your head is material to work with, not a reason you can’t do this.

Is this therapy?

No. It’s a practice you learn and keep, not treatment you receive. Therapists have taken it and brought it into their work with clients. If you’re currently in therapy or have a mental-health history you’d like us to know about, there’s a place for that on the application, and it stays with the facilitation team.

How do I keep practicing after the weekend?

You learn a simple, somatic form you can do with anyone willing to lend an arm, and a solo form using your own arm. After the weekend, there’s a WhatsApp group, an ongoing practice space we’re forming, and the next intensive if you want to come back.

What if I can’t make all of it?

Each part of the weekend builds on the one before, and the group is small, so we ask you to attend the whole intensive. If a conflict comes up, talk to us before you apply.

Do you offer scholarships?

The investment is a sliding scale, and you choose what feels true for you. Beyond that, we hold a limited number of need-based scholarships for diversity and inclusion, for people from communities underrepresented in this work. If that’s you, say so on the application.

The founding cohort together at the end of the four weeks, arms around each other

What in you is yearning to be met?

True Contact begins with another human willing to meet you there.

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January 29–31 · Boulder

The part that is really good at hiding has found so many cute and curious ways to hide and avoid true intimacy. I’ve known that I needed to contact it, but I’ve never been able to find the space and the safety to do so. That was the hardest part—the being witnessed in the rage, in the shame, in the sadness, in the fear. I still don’t like to be seen but I feel braver and courageous and hungry to do so.

Shannon Hoppenstedt

True Contact, founding cohort

Fri–Sun, January 29–31 · Boulder, Colorado

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